>>Ok,
>> So I guess you are both experts because both of you were
>>separated from you mother well before you were 13. Right?
>> Saluda
>
>I'm not going to argue any expertise to you, Saluda. You
>asked a question, and I answered it in what I thought was a
>polite form based on the behaviors of my own children. If I
>came across as condescending or impolite, I apologize.

Unless the mother is a psychotic person or a psychopathic person, children should not be separated from their mothers prior to age 16. They should also have, where possible, the max involvement of their fathers, if the father is not a criminal or psychotic type, at least until grown (especially boys) and any other responsible type relatives such as grandparents - especially where other responsible type relatives can be involved without undue friction in the lives of the children.